Upcoming Meeting

Dr. Sylvia Flescher

"Shades of Grey: the Mommy Porn Phenomenon" or "Don't Yuck my Yum"

October 7, 2014

7:15 pm wine and food, 8:00 - 10:00 pm presentation

Hekemian Conference Rooms 1 & 2
Hackensack University Medical Center


In this somewhat light-hearted presentation, I seek to explain the mass market success of the Shades of Grey trilogy, with a feature film to open on this coming Valentine's Day. I will summarize the plot, which I argue is essentially a love story and offer some psychoanalytic perspectives on what may explain the books' appeal across generations. I explore how the yearning to be mothered is embedded in the way the lovers relate to one another. How has our idea of what constitutes a perversion evolved as our culture changes rapidly around us? Does the popularity of these books signify that sado-masochism (or the less disturbing term "dominance-submission") is a universal aspect of human sexuality? Or are women hungry for a way to recognize and celebrate their being the subjects, not only the objects, of desire?


Sylvia Flescher is a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst in private practice in Ridgewood, N.J. She is on the faculty of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine in N.Y.C. and is Past President of the N.J. Psychoanalytic Society. Her memoir piece, "Googling for Ghosts: a Meditation on Writers' Block, Mourning and the Holocaust" appeared in the Feb. 2012 issue of Psychoanalytic Review.

The conference is free and open to professionals and students.

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At Our Previous Meeting:

"My Inner Self Has Been Squashed and Wants Out or I Will Die": Form of Psychoanalytic Relatedness and Analytic Intimacy

James Fosshage, PhD

June 12, 2014


I have selected an analysand and an analytic process, transpiring over a course of 9 years, to illustrate different forms of relatedness and, in turn, different forms of intimacy. I have previously proposed that attachment needs and forms of relatedness are meaningfully conceptualized as ranging along a continuum. At one end self needs and selfobject relatedness is in the forefront of experience. This is the area of Kohut's mirroring and idealizing selfobject needs and connections -- what Dan Stern calls the self-regulating other. Then there are needs for or connections involving self-with-other that Stern and Benjamin have called intersubjective relatedness. And finally, there are what I call, needs to focus on or be concerned about the other, a "caretaking" relatedness. All forms of relatedness can generate vitalizing experiences for each participant. Most analytic work will demonstrate a shifting priority of needs and forms of relatedness that have to be examined from the perspective of each member of the analytic dyad.


James Fosshage, PhD,. Is Founding President, International Association of Psychoanalytic Self Psychology (IAPSP); Advisory Board Member, International Association for Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (IARPP); Co-founder, Board Director and Faculty, National Institute for psychotherapies (NYC), Founding Faculty, Institute for Psychoanalytic Study of Subjectivity (NYC), Clinical Professor of Psychology, New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis (Co-Founder of Relational Track); and Faculty, Stephen A. Mitchell Center for Relational Studies. He is an Editorial Board member of 7 journals, including Psychoanalytic Inquiry, International Journal of Psychoanalytic Self Psychology, and Psychoanalytic Dialogues. Author of over 100 psychoanalytic publications, including 8 books, he has focused on the implicit/explicit motivational and organizing processes traversing dreams, transference, countertransference, listening perspectives and therapeutic action. His most recent book, co-authored with Joseph Lichtenberg and Frank Lachmann, is Enlivening the Self, to be published this year. Dr. Fosshage has been on the "PEP Top 100 Authors Downloaded" in 2010, 2011, and 2012. A well-known national and international speaker and teacher, he maintains a private practice and study groups in New York City and Tenafly, NJ . (Website: www.jamesfosshage.net).